While vacationing at the WhiteSulphur Springs, WV, in 1867, General Lee became troubled at thevindictiveness, ostracism and loathing that Southerners showed Northerners,particularly amongst young women of society. In his gentle but assertivemanner, he went out of his way to intermingle with Northerners, asking women ofsuch families to publicly socialise at party gatherings held each night there,with him. One night, when enquiring why none of the Southern girls who flockedabout him had taken the time to greet some Pennsylvanians, he told them, ‘weare on our own soil and owe a sacred duty of hospitality.’ Pretending to fanthemselves, no ladies acquiesced. Lee then rose and said, ‘I have tried in vainto find any lady…who is able to present me. I shall now introduce myself andbe glad of any of you who will accompany me.’ A young Southern belle namedChristiana Bond at last rose and said, ‘I will go, General Lee, under your orders.’The Gray Fox shook his head in a fatherly manner, ‘Not under my orders; but itwill gratify me deeply to have your assistance.
As they strode across the ballroom,the General stopped beneath the chandelier to tell her of the pain he felt atthe awareness of the mood of hatred, unreasoning bitterness and resentmentamong the South toward the North, but especially as beheld by the young people.Nearly 60 years later, Mz. Bond would recall his earnest desire for, ‘the dutyof kindness, helpfulness and consideration for others.’ Bond couldn’t help butprostrate, ‘had the General never felt resentment towards the North?’ The GrayFox told her to her etched vivid memory, he was neither bitter, nor resentful.He asked her when she returned home, ‘to take a message to your young friends.’That being, ‘to tell them, from him, that it is unworthy of them as women, andespecially as Christian women, to cherish feelings of resentment against theNorth.’ The General continued that, ‘it pained him inexpressibly to know such astate existed, and he implored one and all to do their duty to heal thecountry’s wounds.’ Lee and Mz. Bond then met with great affection thePennsylvanians.
The influence of Lee’sreconciliatory views spread throughout the resort, to no great surprise.Perhaps a rumour was started on purpose to effect a test; the young Southernladies reported to Lee that Ulysses S. and Julia Grant were to shortly arriveas guests. What ought be the appropriate response? Lee replied, ‘If GeneralGrant comes, I shall welcome him to my home, show him all the courtesy that isdue from one gentleman to another and do everything in my power to make hisstay agreeable.’ (5) Grant did not arrive, but the heroic message Lee strovefor towards reconciliation was undeniable.
Challenges to Lee’s legacy, past andpresent, have forced a reconsideration of his image as ‘The Marble Man’, but acritical reflection of the available primary evidence and rigorous analysis byhistorians such as Gallagher and Atkinson leaves us with the humanity of RobertE. Lee, restored. And in testing the claims of the False Story school ofhistorical thought of those such as Adam Serwer and Eric Foner, what isrevealed in contrast is a man whose defining human trait was heroism.
“It was a general belief in all theSouthern states…that the example of General Lee would weigh far more in therestoration of normal conditions and true peace than any other factor in awar-torn country.”